The want to be wanted will make a husband leave his wife, a wife leave her husband, a child run away from her home. The want to be wanted will make a man work himself to death and make a woman deny how smart she really is. The want to be wanted tells us how to dress, what to eat, what to say and when to say it.
And once we find the satisfaction of that want we discover who we really are.
It would be pious and holy to recognize the want to be wanted is a purely self-centred pre-occupation. It would be if it weren’t the story we find ourselves in – we – you and me – we are wanted. We were born because we are wanted even if we’re not born to people who want us.
“Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat . . . We must find each other.” – Mother Teresa