The Want

The want to be wanted is a powerful force. It may be the most powerful force in the human experience.

The want to be wanted will make a husband leave his wife, a wife leave her husband, a child run away from her home. The want to be wanted will make a man work himself to death and make a woman deny how smart she really is. The want to be wanted tells us how to dress, what to eat, what to say and when to say it.

And once we find the satisfaction of that want we discover who we really are.

It would be pious and holy to recognize the want to be wanted is a purely self-centred pre-occupation. It would be if it weren’t the story we find ourselves in – we – you and me – we are wanted. We were born because we are wanted even if we’re not born to people who want us.

“Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat . . . We must find each other.” – Mother Teresa


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Stumbling towards what comes next.
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4 Responses to The Want

  1. hndsmgy says:

    I completely agree that “want” has incredible power and I believe, determines all of life’s decisions. You purchase what you “want” because it tastes the best to you and you purchase food because you “want” not to feel the pain of hunger. You “want” companionship too because of a built in desire to feel accepted. Everything you do is based off of a built in system of “wants” that you are born with.
    Your want to feel accepted is no more self-centered than your want for food because both desires are built into your humanity! If God wanted you to be a hermit and live off in a cave somewhere he would have made you “want” that kind of life instead.

  2. Michelle says:

    I think the root of many, if not all, of my dependencies and various other issues has been a belief that I was/am unwanted. In the journal group that just got started Donna passed around a sheet with some ideas to help us get writing. One question that really struck me was, “why did God create me?” Whoa, that’s deep.

  3. Lindsay says:

    Brilliant thought. Thanks for this!

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